... More importantly, do we want it to be?
While I have my opinions on the matter, what I really want is yours. It didn't occur to me until I read the very realistic "first time" sex scene in Desires of the Dead that the physical scenes in other novels sometimes seem a little too fluid (and NO that is not a bodily functions joke!) by comparison.
As a teenager, you have no idea what you're doing. Everything is brand new. It would be nice if everyone's firsts could be magical and perfectly choreographed, but aren't they usually more... awkward?
For example, take this kissing scene from Nightshade by the amazing Andrea Cremer:
I lifted my chin and his lips were on mine. The light touch speared my body and exploded deep within me. I shuddered and took his lower lip between my teeth, biting gently.
As hot as this kiss is, when I read it, I couldn't help but think, Really? It's her very first kiss and she's already going for the lip bite?
Now, compare to the first kiss scene in Kiersten White's Paranormalcy:
I closed my eyes, melting in. His lips - oh bleep, his lips - just when I thought his skin was the softest thing ever. And warm like you wouldn't believe.... After a few seconds I wondered if I was supposed to be doing anything else. I'd never done this before. [He] must have been wondering the same thing, because he slowly moved his lips. I answered with mine, and we stood there in his room, figuring out how to kiss.
I like that Evie has to figure out what to do, as opposed to Calla busting out the moves of a seasoned kisser her first time out of the gate. If the moment is too perfect, it isn't necessarily realistic.
Like in Breaking Dawn, when Bella and Edward finally do the deed. She says they "fit like two puzzle pieces," and after that, she's pretty much insatiable. But I kept thinking, Wouldn't it be like getting it on with a freezing cold slab of stone? And how can either of them get lost in the moment when Bella could wind up seriously injured at any given second? What if he accidentally splits her in half?
It made me think about some of the novels I've read where sex is just taken into stride: The Secret Year, Beastly, The Eternal Ones, Shiver. There's minimal trepidation (none in the Secret Year, though Colt is no virgin), lots of lust, and very little awkwardness.
Sure the characters know it's right, but it is really that easy? Are kisses like Calla's idealized? Or can a first time really be a perfect 10?
Confession time: I don't remember my first kiss. I know who it was with, I know how old I was. But don't ask me where I was when it happened, or even what I thought of it. I have no idea. Guess it didn't spear my body and explode deep within me, or the impression might have been a bit more lasting.
But I'd love to know- was your first kiss more Calla, or more Evie? Which do you prefer to read? To write?