Friday, May 6, 2011

An Ode to Mom

Three things are making me reflective this week:
1) It's Mother's Day on Sunday. 
2) This month marks one year that I've been with my current fertility specialist, and I'm still not a mom  myself.
3) I'm turning 31 on Wednesday, which means me and my eggs aren't getting any younger.  Which means my chances of celebrating my first Mother's Day AS a mom by the age of 32 are growing slimmer by the day.

I hope that when (and if) I have children, they adore me the way I adore my mother.  I never went through that nasty phase of I-hate-my-mom teenage rebellion.  I always thought she was the bomb, and nothing less.  Even when she wore glasses like this:

Me, my mom, and my sister, circa 1983
So today I want to thank my mom for being the kind of mother I hope to be someday.  It's hard to say what makes someone a Mom and not just a parent, but here are some of the things I've come up with.  Thank you, Mommy, for

- Knowing when to say "no," because it taught me boundaries.
- Letting me face the music when I did something wrong, because it taught me that actions have consequences
- Maintaining your incredible and unique sense of humor, because it taught me the healing power of laughter
- Emphasizing the importance of family, because they really are the most important thing
- Teaching me how to do things instead of doing them for me, because it taught me self-reliance
- For the way your face still lights up when you see me, because it reminds me of how much I am loved

And even though you still love big hair and flashy jewelry, thank you, Mommy, for losing those glasses!  I love you!

Me, my mom, and my sister, 2008


  1. I'm turning 31 this year too! Yay for 1980!! :D

    I am single, and also kidless. I'm not even sure I WANT kids...but yeah, I feel the clock ticking too.

  2. Wow, my mom never taught me anything like that. She taught me to knit and sew, and how to avoid doing the ironing so that your husband is forced to buy new shirts. Which of course the cat appreciated since all those shirts in the ironing pile made for one comfy bed. ;)

  3. I'm so sorry you're struggling! I can only imagine how frustrating it must be to want to be a mom and have to wait. I'm not a patient person, so it would drive me crazy! I wish you the best.

  4. Awwww this was so very lovely! And I totally get it b/c of my own struggles. Big BIG hugs!

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